These words are always in style
November seems like an odd month to talk about pet peeves, however, you’ll see the connection so please keep reading. What’s also a bit funny here is that I can’t really say I have a lot of pet peeves. For the most part, I do my best to let annoying things go except when it comes to words. That’s where I have a few pet peeves because how we use words can be very powerful whether they are used positively or negatively.
According to many authorities on the subject, a positive attitude about our health can be a contributing factor to achieving it. If so, we have the power to determine how we want to talk about conditions or illnesses that we or loved ones may experience. Claiming “ownership” can be eliminated by omitting possessive pronouns. Instead of saying “my diabetes” or “her cancer,” we can let people know we are challenged with something without owning it. I had this separation of the condition from the person reinforced while working for United Cerebral Palsy Association. We were reminded to refer to someone “with a disability” rather than calling them a disabled person.
Another word pet peeve is the use of negative contractions when we really want a positive outcome such as remembering to do something. Instead of saying “don’t forget” we can rephrase a common speech pattern by saying, “Remember to bring such and such.” Phrases that start with negative contractions draw attention to the very thing we don’t want. With a little practice, we can omit the negative and say what we really want to happen.
The words most problematic for me to hear are when people say, “I can’t thank you enough.” That’s how pet peeves connect to Thanksgiving. Beyond the food and fellowship, I love how this holiday reminds us to express our gratitude and appreciation for all that we have, all that we have to give, and all that we receive. For me, saying thank you speaks volumes regardless of the reason for saying it.
The power of thank you is substantiated by countless success stories from people who have used gratitude principles for personal and professional accomplishments. It’s absolutely timeless and never goes out of style. We don’t have to minimize in any way our heartfelt intentions to express our appreciation.
As Thanksgiving approaches, I hope your gratitude list is full of gratefulness for everything you have in life especially the people. Tell them thank you whenever and wherever you can. When expressed with sincerity, “thank you” is more than enough.